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Only some people are going to get it right. But, sadly, there's always someone quick to point out when you're getting it wrong. It's when you come under fire that you lose confidence quickly. 

To get past this kind of blow to our confidence, you need to understand these simple truths:

Not Everyone Has It Right - Not Even You 

Haters are going to hate. But just because someone comes at you with the most reasonable-sounding explanation in the world of why you're an idiot (and you're an expert at giving that speech to yourself), the person doing the talking doesn't know what they're talking about. 

The reason for this is straightforward: individuals are not omniscient, and even when they believe they are, they are prone to making mistakes. So just because something nasty has been said, it doesn't make it right. Regardless of who it's coming from.

A Lot of Criticism is Grounded in Jealousy 

That disaster you're beating yourself up over? How much of it was the result of the green-eyed monster? Too often, we give people authority over us that they don't deserve. We listen to their complaints thinking they're right without questioning why they're attacking what you're doing. The biggest culprit of why you've drawn the attention of the critics is jealousy. Don't let someone pull down your confidence just because they're feeling threatened by where you are. 

You're Better Than You Think 

The loss of confidence can make you the critic. Why? Because now you're looking for justification for thinking you're no good. And trust me, when you go hunting for this kind of justification, you'll always find it. So here's where you need to back up and take a good, hard, impartial look at yourself. Ask:

Is this review true? 

For example, you might think, "I fail at everything I do." Is this realistic? Probably not.

If this thought isn't true, what emotion is it coming from?

The most likely explanation? A lot of negative emotions come from fear. In the previous example, you might be afraid of failing, so by convincing yourself you're a failure already; you no longer have to try.

What's a truer statement I might make instead?

Try rewording the thought and keep it honest. For example, "I'm afraid of failing, but since I've succeeded in the past, there's good reason to think I will succeed now."

Confidence comes from accepting who you are and where you are. Remember, nobody, not even you, has a right to make you feel small. 

For a more in-depth understanding of the hero's journey, I highly recommend watching the TEDx Talk by Matthew Winkler titled "What makes a hero?"

In this captivating and visually engaging video, Winkler breaks down the essential elements that define a hero's journey, a narrative pattern in storytelling traditions worldwide. This video will help you grasp the concept more deeply and inspire you to embark on your hero's journey. So take a moment to watch it - it's well worth your time. Remember, every hero's journey begins with a single step. Will you take that step today?

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To Your Success,

Clyde

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